“Don't tell someone to get over it. Help them get through it.” –Sue Fitzmaurice
I wish I could infiltrate the hearts of others with this concept. It’s one I strive to fulfill but struggle with due to being human. We can all picture in our minds infinite moments where someone needed help through a situation but instead they were told to “deal,” “walk it off,” “grow up,” and so on. I know I’ve said it to people and I’ve felt the sting of that rejection of my need for help and support. Life has hardened us, thickened our skin, and blinded us to so much in the people we interact with everyday. It’s true and oh-so sad to note.
Imagine what the world could be if we were softer, gentler, and more consistently understanding of people around us. What if we took the time to ask, “Can I help you,” “how is everything in your world,” or asking “how are you?” When we hear the standard answer then say, “What does fine or good mean?” Who knows, maybe we could start a revolutionary movement of helping and supporting instead of closing our eyes and thickening their skin.
Let’s start with you. “How is everything in your world and what help do you need?”
Sarah Deats is the Hope Inc. Stories Inspiration Engineer. Her goals are to make a connection with everyone that she can while building community, spreading hope, and sparking change. She believes that while life may not be easy, it is never lived alone.