Think back to the most important experiences of your life, the highest highs, the greatest victories, the most daunting obstacles overcome. How many happened to you alone? I bet there are very few. When you understand that being connected to others is one of life’s greatest joys, you realize that life’s best comes when you initiate and invest in solid relationships. —John C. Maxwell
Call it a CLAN. Call it a NETWORK. Call it a TRIBE. Call it a FAMILY… Whatever you call it, whoever you are… you NEED one.
Life was not meant to be lived alone. Inside each of us is a need to connect with someone else. A deep desire to be surrounded by others who can support us, protect us and in turn be cared for by us. Think back to birth, an infant is completely vulnerable and requires someone else to care for them in order to survive. The need for others never changes. The types of needs evolve; what starts out as a need for survival becomes a need for emotional support, social connectedness and so on. Knowing that this connection is a need at the core of every person… think about who in your life fills that need…also think about who needs you in their connection group…can’t think of anyone? Time to start searching because we are meant to live life TOGETHER. Building your clan, network, tribe, or family is the most important example of self-care and recovery. They become a barrier that protects you, a mirror to show you who you think you are and a camera to remind you who you really are. They will protect you, guide you, support you and also fulfill your need to be needed. Time to start collecting people…
Sarah Deats is a Behavioral Health Technician at RI International and the Hope Inc. Stories Recovery Guide