There are so many reasons that regardless of the love that is being extended to another, there may be lack of acknowledgment from them. It’s completely natural to give love and then want to receive love back. When love is not acknowledged or returned, it can be a painful situation. This is a big shout out to anyone in (or has been in) this kind of situation.
I talk to so many people through the Recovery Connection Line. Often they are loved ones to those experiencing some kind of heart wrenching challenge. Maybe they are loving and caring for a loved one experiencing an addiction, dementia, mental health issue, an intellectual or physical disability, or are estranged from a loved one(s), and much more. Just writing this list makes my heart hurt with the pain I’ve heard from others. How many of you know/have known this kind of pain?
Please know you’re not alone in the journey. There are others hurting similarly, and those who want to reach out with empathy and offer love. There’s so much I don’t know, but I stand by this: love is the most powerful force in the Universe. Someone may not be able to share their love back, but be certain that if you give love, it is felt—even if not acknowledged. The love you give is your love and can’t be taken from you. The act of giving love is returned to you; maybe not in the way you originally wanted, but love is generative and cannot be destroyed.
Love for love’s sake. Love because you desire to love, and because we’re made for love. Love yourself so compassionately (even more when it’s not acknowledged by others), and find ways to fill your own “love tank” frequently. We can’t give the love we’re capable of when we are depleted of love ourselves.
I may not know you personally or the situation you’re in, but I empathize with your situation. I encourage reaching out for support; there are those who find it an honor to give love and support. I believe in love, and I believe in you. And, I believe love wins—always!
Cheri Thomas
Cheri works as a Peer Support Specialist at Recovery Innovations. She writes as an expression of her heart in hopes of connecting to others’ hearts, so that no one feels alone on this journey-and instead feels valued, seen, and heard while growing in empowerment.