What is vulnerability? Brené Brown’s definition of vulnerability includes “uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.” Initially, that doesn’t feel like a very fun trio does it? Peer Support Specialists embrace vulnerability each time they share part of their lived experience to support another. It’s a risk to share some of our challenges encountered. It’s uncertain (and out of our control) how someone else will respond, and throughout the process layers of emotional exposure exist.

Societally, some people equate vulnerability with weakness. Some people cannot imagine sharing their challenges, mistakes, “dark nights” etc. They want to share the triumphs and victories only. Along with studying and defining vulnerability, Brené Brown makes a point of declaring the fact that vulnerability is NOT weakness, but “it’s our most accurate measure of courage.”

One of the beautiful things about the process of Peer Support Specialists supporting others is that their courageous vulnerability has the potential to create a powerful connection with the other. It opens up a safe space for another. It humanizes the process and “levels the playing field” so to speak. It allows the other to put their guard down and open up at a deeper level. And, it doesn’t end there because the challenges, dark nights, etc., are only part of the recovery journey. There is more to the story—awarenesses spring up, healing emerges, and wisdom is gained leading to inner transformations that permeate all aspects of our lives over time. As we share vulnerably with others—compassion, hope, inspiration, understanding, empowerment, and more are offered to the other in the process. All of it is true.

Being vulnerable is an option every human has (whether you’re a certified Peer Support Specialist or not.) Maybe you are already doing this naturally — seeking out people you feel you can trust to be vulnerable with, and thereby creating deep connections. Maybe you’re the person others (in vulnerability) naturally seek out to connect with. If you’ve experienced this, you know it from your heart (not head) because there truly is “strength in vulnerability that only vulnerability knows.”

Cheri Thomas

Cheri works as a Peer Support Specialist for RI in Arizona. She has experienced loss and grief which has led her to write for the masses to bring voice to those in similar situations. Cheri possesses a deep passion to share with, encourage, and inspire others on what she calls the Journey of the Heart.