“There's pressure on parents to make everything look easy. It may not be a bad thing to show your children that you are working hard to achieve your goals.” –Laura Schulz
I love this quote. It’s been reassuring for me in a time filled with more chaos than I’d like to admit. When I was working full time, going to school full time, and interning there were days that the only time I saw my family was while I studied at the dinner table. It was brutal and I still have regrets about the time I lost because I was always so wrapped up in work and school needs. Laura reminds us chaotically busy people to focus on what we are truly teaching those around us, that hard work is needed and the rewards are worth the sacrifice. Generations that came before me were great examples of the power of physical labor but also what the determination to meet a goal can do for the mind. If as a parent, social worker and friend I’m not allowing those around me to watch me struggle for things I believe in I’m falsely saying that hard work, failures and mistakes don’t exist. This misrepresentation of reality could mean they give up when things get hard and never feel the triumph of success.
As a parent I wish I could make life easier, prevent hurts, and pave the way to success with each goal but that means I would take away the opportunity to learn, grow, and find a way to thrive on their own. I guess ideally I’m an example through my own struggle but also a bridge rather than a barrier to succeed. This is something we can all cling to while we allow others to see the realities of our struggles. Hiding behind a mask or just not being real when you show the hard choices, discipline and sacrifices means we are an example to others. We are showing them that sacrifice is worth the reward, nothing comes on a silver platter and we earn more the more we put in. Don’t be afraid to show the grit because we are the champions of right now and we are teaching the champions of tomorrow to succeed!
Sarah Deats is the Hope Inc. Stories Inspiration Engineer. Her goals are to make a connection with everyone that she can while building community, spreading hope, and sparking change. She believes that while life may not be easy, it is never lived alone.