“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” –Buddha
I believe if we are honest with ourselves, all of us would say we have wounded someone in some way in our life. And, the flip side of that is that we have been wounded by someone. I also believe with my whole heart, that regardless of the extent of the woundedness, healing is absolutely possible.
I also know firsthand that staying “the victim” of the wounding will not result in healing. Wounding is real! And it hurts. There’s no minimizing the pain suffered. And, healing is not an overnight process. It’s a layer by layer process.
We do have to choose to walk the path of healing if we want to recover. No one can do that for us. However, that does not mean that there’s not an array of supports /supporters to help every step of the way.
If you are waiting for someone to save you, or you are waiting for the person/people who wounded you to come back and make amends, then your healing will surely be thwarted. As difficult as it may be to accept, recovery is not dependent on someone else no matter how horrifically they victimized you. They may never attempt to make amends, so save yourself now.
No one said it will be easy, but ask anyone that’s been in recovery a while and they’ll tell you it’s totally worth it. YOU are worth it! Choose to walk your recovery path because you are worth saving!
Cheri works as a Peer Support Specialist for RI in Arizona. She has experienced loss and grief which has led her to write for the masses to bring voice to those in similar situations. Cheri possesses a deep passion to share with, encourage, and inspire others on what she calls the Journey of the Heart.